How to find the right boy name
Expectant mums and dads often spend hours studying books and endless lists of baby names to find a boy name.
It is only in the search that most realise that their choice can have a huge impact on their child’s life.
But do names really make a difference?
This guide will help you circumnavigate the cliffs when naming your son and find the right name.
What to look out for?
Choosing a name for a boy is not always easy and sometimes even complicated.
Not only should the name sound good along with the family name, but possible nicknames-good and bad-need to be considered.
A name may honor a favorite grandfather, but it can also have a forgotten meaning and evoke unsightly associations.
Choosing the name for a baby is one of the tasks in pregnancy that at first glance seems most enjoyable.
However, the more expectant parents think about it, the more you realize it’s a path where one trap or another lurks.
Whether in the playground, as an adult or as one of 5 “Olivers” in the class.
The name accompanies a boy his whole life.
Does the name affect life?
The name affects your boy’s life.
One example is the names of English and French origin, popular in the first years after reunification in eastern Germany.
In the 1990s, in eastern Germany, Marvin, Kevin or Dennis for boys and Chantal, Chloé or Jaqueline for girls were among the front-runners in the name choice.
Today, the children of those days are young adults and have problems finding an apprenticeship or a job.
The reason for this is the prejudices of many (West German) personnel heads, who sort out applications with these and similar first names unseen.
Choosing a name that’s in vogue right now can prove to be a very unfortunate decision for your son in hindsight.
Whether it’s the first or fourth baby, all parents are wrestling with choosing a name.
While it’s very easy to be sure about the names you don’t like, it can be difficult to find the name that’s right for your son.
And even if you have chosen a name, you can be pretty sure that others will judge you by your choice.
The boy’s name selection is great.
Which boy names own themselves, which one should not give your son with him?
Should the boy’s name fit the last name?
If you have selected one or the other preferred first name, you should check the next step to see if the name fits the last name.
Both uttered together should sound good.
Just make a list of the names and talk them out loud along with the last name.
A name that fits surnames makes it easier for your son in his life.
The first name should be short with a few syllables, if the family name has many syllables.
With a family name that starts with a vowel, a first name that ends with a vowel fits only badly.
It is very important that both names do not rade.
Popular names are often those that start with the same letter as the family name.
Suitable for the parents
Calling the son after his father has gone a little out of fashion and sometimes even frowned upon.
For many young parents, this choice of name is too old-fashioned, too conservative or unimaginative.
But, why, actually?
Boy names that fit the father are, for the most part, a good choice if the father bears a beautiful name.
Whether an extraordinary name, a classic name or a name modern 25 years ago, almost doesn’t matter.
Why shouldn’t the son be called like his father and perhaps continue an old family tradition?
The same applies to boy names that fit the grandpa or boy names that fit the uncle.
In many cases, a boy can be named just as well after his mother.
What sounds a bit outlandish at first is basically quite simple.
There are a number of girls ‘ names that yield a little truncated beautiful boy names.
Michaela becomes Michael or Gabriela becomes Gabriel.
Think about it.
The spelling of the name
Certain names allow for a wide variety of spellings.
This is an important point to think about carefully when choosing the name.
It is advisable to avoid unusual or unconventional spellings of names, if only to protect your child from the ridicule of others.
On a practical level, unusual spellings for a boy’s name can lead to confusion and frustration.
For example, if your son has to spell his name to the person on the other end of the phone x-times in later life.
Sometimes it’s just better to go with the conventions.
It’s worth googling the most popular boy names if you’re not sure about the spelling.
Meaning of names?
You should really take your time to see if the desired name has a meaning.
And if yes, you should think about what your son’s name means.
There may be some unfortunate associations with this name.
Not entirely unimportant is also a review of what the name might mean in some other languages.
Shortening the name?
Common sense says you should put the longer version on the birth certificate.
There is no law that says you then have to call your son with the long variant.
But it’s a wise decision to let him the option of the long version of his name as he gets older.
Conversely, if you decide to use the long variant, be prepared for the fact that literally everyone-school friends, teachers, relatives and so on-will shorten the name, whether you object or not.
From John will be Jo from Thomas will be Tom and Maximilian will be Max.
And nothing you do or say will make the slightest difference.
Like most things in life, choosing a name for your son is a matter of balance.
Celebrities give their children, whether boy or girl, often for normal mortal ears rather quirky sounding names.
If you’re not exactly a celebrity and can send your son to a secluded private school later, choosing an unusual name for your son is usually not a good idea.
If you give your boy a really unusual name, it may happen that he will spend part of his life explaining his names.
He will have to explain how he is spelled, what the name means, why he was so called and how his name is pronounced.
This also applies to mysterious, mythical names such as Ptolemy or Ichabod.
What better an old or modern name?
Should I give my boy an old-fashioned name?
Do you think of the classics when it comes to finding a name for your son?
Convention is not a bad thing because, in fact, popular things are popular for a reason-and not everyone has to choose an unusual name.
Traditional names have long been proven.
Often under the first names of the ancestors and ancestors there are names, which have been very popular over the decades and will probably be again one day.
Perhaps the only exception is the two or three generations of very popular double names such as Karl-Otto, Franz-Josef or Karl-Heinz.
Classic names are usually a low-risk choice. History repeats itself. So did name trends.
Names that had almost disappeared in the mid-20th century are now again among the most popular names for boys.
For example Jonas, Emil, Vincent or Oskar.
You only need to take a look at a list of the 100 most popular boy names currently in order to see how the names of the great-grandparents are developing again at the moment.
What is Kevinism?
The era of so-called Kevinism, the time when names like Kevin were hugely popular for boys and maiden names like Chantal, has been over for a few years.
Gone, too, is the time when Tyson or Chayenne were considered intellectually cool names.
Today is called Emilism in relation to name-calling.
Emilism means that old first names are becoming more and more important.
Emilism at the same time represents a return to old values.
Grandpa and grandma’s long frowned upon first names are back in Germany and other countries.
An old-fashioned name for boys today is often old-fashioned only at first glance.
Some are more popular today than they were in great-grandfather’s time.
Other classic names, particularly first names dating back to Germanic mythology, have hardly been forgiven for a long time.
Examples of these names include:
Siegfried, Gunther, Hartmut, Dietrich, Rüdiger or Volker.
Influences from grandparents
Not only do young parents wrestle with each other when choosing a name.
Grandparents also often want, whether asked or unasked, a say in the naming of their grandson.
It is not uncommon for parents to simply reject the choice of parents.
A survey of young parents in the US has found that, in most cases, grandparents reject a name because they simply find it odd.
Sometimes the grandparents are offended, as their own proposal or family name has not been taken into account.
In almost half of all cases, it is the mothers or mother-in-law who complain about the choice of name.
Only in every sixth case did the fathers or father-of-two do so.
For young parents, choosing the right name is already hard enough if they only consider your own views.
If you add grandparents “prejudices to this mix, a decision can become impossible.
So don’t be swayed.
Of course, you can and should listen to what your parents or parents-in-law are doing for suggestions.
If they make any. In the end, however, only you and your partner will decide.
Tips and tricks
If you can’t agree
No matter how well you understand yourself with your partner and how perfectly you harmonize in all areas of your life.
Naming is a point where until then happy couples often get into contention.
If you can’t agree on a particular winner, there’s an amicable solution.
Create a list of your respective favorites.
One of you-maybe the mother who carried the baby for 40 weeks?
Then select a name.
You can find currently popular boy names on Namen-finder.com
Sometimes you just have to wait until you hold the newcomer in your arm for the first time.
Then your heart tells you all by itself what it should be called.